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Trapped Renaissance Woman's avatar

There is so much to be gained from simply showing up. I know it’s possible, because after having my own ‘shining’ and being afraid to trust or really interact with people again, I somehow managed to grow a large social circle. As an introvert I’m constantly surprised by the number of new connections I make by just going to places, classes, events, and volunteer opportunities that spark curiosity in me. I dare say it’s easier to make friends alone in these environments than it is to show up with a loose acquaintance who may intimidate your next best friend from saying hello! Sending love to the anonymous poster🫶

June's avatar

Truly same, I have struggled to connect with people since I was a teenager and I was forced to grow up and grow aware all to fast. It’s only been recently that I’ve decided I am worth the life I want whether anyone is around to see it or participate in it or not. My works has expanded so much just by making that one simple choice for myself.

Miss poster, you are not alone - we see you!

rachel kess's avatar

I love my alone time too, especially with the company of a dog. But we all could use some girl talk sometimes. I hope the person who sent this knows she deserving of that and I believe she can attract it 💓 your response is kind, real and encouraging June 🦋

June's avatar

She has that place here if she ever wants to find her way into my DMs!! I am always looking for friends :)

O L I V I A's avatar

you truly are a little pocket of wisdom. your words feel like a blessing to read.

"these are all tangible proofs that you know how to choose yourself and maintain your boundaries, at least in what you will accept in relationships." <3

June's avatar

It is such an honor to be trusted in this way with someone's inner thoughts and to be able to just see them and be here with them through it. I've always felt this was my life's purpose, and it is an unbelievable joy to see that come to life these last few weeks.

I take each submission and each comment here with such responsibility and care. I hope to be a resource for anyone who can benefit from even a word or sentence of what I write.

Productivity With Care's avatar

Aw this is such a beautiful response...And I think this writer is not alone. I have been there with barely any friends. I would also like to say to this person: It is better to have a few core people where you have such a deep relationship with than a ton of people where you don't have that close a relationship with. Don't forget about your relationships with your fiancee and family. I totally agree with just dating yourself first, figuring out what you like to do, and maybe joining activities to (with no pressure) get to know some people.

Sending this person so much love, and I will be here for them, too! <3

June's avatar

what a beautiful sentiment to add to this post, thank you!

Arial Wicklund's avatar

What a great and intimate read. I loved the original diary entry with a response post. What a difficult time to grow through. I know what it's like to drift away from people due to people moving.

I was able to find some great friends by using the Bumble For Friends app. It's like having a second job though. Reaching out, interviewing and meeting up.

But, now I have a D&D group and a friend who reaches out to me for long phone calls.

June's avatar

I’m so happy to hear you’ve found your way! I totally agree with you on Bumble BFF a really awesome tool but difficult like online dating to really connect with people.

inside.mihaela's avatar

Dear writer this is so relatable and I send many virtual hugs. To June, you are amazing what a true precious soul. I love your submitting concept.

June's avatar

thank you so much for this kind comment, this kind of work really calls to me and I am overcome with emotion that anyone would want to share, I hope to do right by them!

Grecia Figueroa's avatar

Beautiful advice. So kind and gentle. Sending my love to this writer. It’s harder to make friends as you get older, but not impossible. Thank you for uplifting her, June!

June's avatar

Always my goal with these submissions!

Matthias Biehl's avatar

lots of love to this person, can not imagine what they went through. you are deserving of friends and people, and you are only 26, there is so much opportunity out there!! make peace with the five years that have passed but make sure the next five are different, June has given some wonderful recommendations :)

June's avatar

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